Monday, December 8, 2014

To start covering your aurah

Assalammualaikum dear readers, 

before you start reading, if in the middle of reading my thoughts and it's starting to get bored, please at least read the last 2 parts :)

lately I've been reading, seeing, listening and watching about muslims who did not cover their aurat, specifically, not wearing hijab and dresses sexily as if they don't have any guilt. We know that the aurat for muslimah are not just their hair but their entire body except their face and their palm. But to me, the starting point of covering our aurat properly is by wearing hijab. I'm not sure if you get what I am trying to say but to think logically, when someone wears hijab, she would automatically dresses properly like wearing long pants or skirts instead of shorts and mini skirts. Some of you might disagree but this is my opinion because to me if you are already covering your hair and wrapping your head with shawls and pashmina or whatever which might be uncomfortable for someone who are not used to it, you are definitely ready to cover other parts of your body. Every muslims know that to cover your aurat is an obligatory.

I know I was once a free-haired muslimah. What I meant by that was before this I did not wear hijab and did not cover my aurat. But today I wanna share on how I decided to change and cover my aurat. I frequently read and saw a lot of muslims gave excuses for not covering their aurat by saying "it's not the time yet. when the hidayah come to me, I will change. bla bla bla" THAT EXCUSE IS TOTALLY WRONG FOR ME! 

My dear sisters and brothers, to cover your aurat, you MUST FORCE YOURSELF TO DO SO. The hidayah will not come to you if you show no will to change. Some people say, "there's no use forcing ourselves to cover if we are not sincere" idk why but this statement really pisses me off because it's NOT TRUE. From my experience, sincerity comes from forcing myself. I forced my self to cover my aurat. There's just one day when I was like,"that's it. If I keep on waiting. it won't happen. I have to make it happen by myself. it doesn't matter how annoying it's gonna be. Whenever I step out from this house, I must make sure I wear my hijab." and that's how it started, I eventually became sincere, by that I mean, I no longer feel annoyed to cover my aurat and it became a habit which I would automatically do everyday. It turns out that I'm starting to feel very guilty if I did not cover my aurat.

My lovely sisters, me, myself is still not perfect in covering my aurat properly such as wearing socks and handsocks. But what matters the most is covering the big part of it. If YOU, have not yet cover your big part of aurat that is wearing hijab and proper dresses, please do so starting from now on. FORCE YOURSELF TO DO SO. Right now, go and search any hijab you have and any proper clothes you have in your place and try it on! If you are planning to go out after this, wear it STRAIGHTAWAY. If it's hot and uncomfortable, bear with it because any desire to open it and exposing your aurat, it comes from the syaitan. If you follow that desire, you know who you are obeying to instead of Allah who created you. Eventually you will be comfortable with it one fine day. What matters is that you must start it by yourself. two words, FORCE YOURSELF! The sincerity will eventually come.and if YOU, are already wearing hijab. let's together re-evaluate ourselves whether we have properly cover our aurat. Ask ousrselves,"do I still wear tight attire? have I covered my aurat properly? Am I wearing the hijab in a right way? is it okay to wear hijab with big humps on the back of my head? is it okay to pretend I'm a camel? (okay that was a bit exaggerating :p)" 

My brothers, you too must cover your aurat especially those who loves to wear shorts. But that's not what I'm actually going to say. Main point is, if you have a mother, sisters, wife, friends, relatives who did not cover their aurat, force them to. Especially your mother, sister and wife. You are a man, you should be a leader. If they are not listening to you, annoy them every freaking day by telling them to cover their aurat. Force them in anyway you are able to. Trust me, they might be annoyed but when they are alone, they will start to think and might eventually change. Some might change just because they are too annoyed and might wear it only if it's in front of you, but to think again, that is actually a good start because a start is the most important step in anything. All it need is a very great push and a great will.

I guess that's all I have to say for now. If you have any opinion, please feel free to leave a comment okay. Thank you for your time.
Assalammualaikum :)

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Everything is different now.

Assalammualaikum dear readers :) my last post was on january, I've been busy with school and other stuffs. since my last post, many things had happened. There are tears of joy and also tears of pain. I can't really describe everything in words. Many things had changed, school, friends and family. Even me, I'm a different person now. Not 100 percent different but I'm different. My life is more calm now. I have to admit this, before I wear hijab, I always think negatively, say bad things, leave my prayers, in conclusion, I was a lost muslim. Yeah, I'm not a good person. But now, it's a whole different me. I've become more calm, alhamdulillah so far I have never leave my prayers anymore, when I'm in trouble, all I do is pray to Allah. I'm proud of myself, there's one day, it was last week. I was very mad at my brother, before this, when I'm mad, I'll start to curse and you will never know how bad it is. but on that day I was mad at my brother, I managed to control my anger as I keep on reciting astagfirullahhal'azim. I'm telling you this because I wanna share my happiness. I'm happy because for the first time I've managed to control my anger which is really bad before this. Only Allah knows it. To be clear, I feel good about myself now. Maybe not always but let me tell you, if you ever feel down, insecure, sad, lonely, wanna cry, need someone to share your sadness, just take your wudu' and pray to Allah. It really helps, or at least just istighfar as many as you want until you are calmed. I'm serious, any problems you had, don't post on twitter, facebook, blog or any social networks. Take your wudu' and just pray to Allah, cry to Allah, say everything to Allah cause only Allah can really help you. That's what I do. I felt so calm and good that I don't even know how to describe this good feeling to you. It's just better than telling your friends and posting it on social networks. I know I have posted about my problems before, it was before and I think it's a wrong thing to do because it change nothing. And one more thing, it's not hard to change. When some people say, belum dapat hidayah nak berubah, idklah but I think it's not about hidayah, it's about your own desire to change, your determination, your effort to be a better person. When the determination is strong, you will succeed. You can't wait for that hidayah. You have to find it. It really is about fighting against your bad instinct. Once you managed to fight the bad feelings, you will be so proud of yourself and feel great. So, what I'm trying to say is, try as hard as you can to fight all the negativity and be a better person. You may not be perfect because nobody is perfect. At least you are a better person :) I really hope you guys read this in a positive way. Let's avoid having negative thoughts as we are all humans and humans made mistakes. Assalammualaikum.
Ohh wait, and not to forget to always thank Allah for everything, say Alhamdulillah for all joy, pain and success.